UCanMakeItIfYouTry – Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take immediately.
TOP TIPS
How much time do you spend wanting what other people have? Whenever you scroll through social media feeds, do you feel a little envy and fall into the comparison trap? If you don’t rein it in, you may experience regret and longing instead of embracing who you are. Stop playing the comparison game with these nine tips.
1 – Practice Gratitude
We all have something we can be grateful for. The trick is teaching yourself to recognize the good things in your own life. One way to practice gratitude is to write three things you are grateful for daily. Then, refer back to the list when you are struggling.
2 – Celebrate Others’ Accomplishments
Often, people fail to cheer on the accomplishments of a friend genuinely. Why? If you fall into this category, it may be out of envy or feelings of discontentment. Try celebrating their hard work with them while you keep moving forward with your dreams.
3 – Compete with Yourself, Not Others
Instead of competing with others, take a long look at your goals. Review where you started and compare it to where you are now. Look at how you have grown professionally and personally. It gives you a new perspective to embrace and enjoy.
4 – Set Boundaries for Viewing Social Media
Checking social media too much affects your mental well-being. Instead of getting sucked into a “doomscroll,” proactively set boundaries to viewing. For example, unfollow accounts, set a timer, and shut off your phone during dinner. In short, learn to be deliberate about your consumption.
5 – Fast From Social Media
It isn’t easy to be content with your life if you continually compare yourself to others on social media. If setting limits isn’t working for you, it may be time to take drastic measures—take a fast. Shut off all of your social accounts and unsubscribe from emails. Use that recouped time to count your blessings.
6 – Use Comparison as a Motivator
A little comparison can motivate you to make changes in your life. When you see someone doing something you’d like to try, don’t get stuck in Envy-Ville. Use their example as inspiration, and see how you can replicate their actions.
7 – Learn Your Triggers
We all have triggers that lead to certain emotions, such as sadness and cynicism. For some, it’s social media or diving down rabbit holes on the Internet. For others, it can be specific toxic relationships. Learning what triggers you will help you learn how to engage or when to avoid people, places, and activities.
8 – Acknowledge Where You Are
It’s helpful to stop and admit where you are and how you are doing. Once you come to peace with it, you are in a position to change things. You can make the necessary changes to achieve the life you seek instead of getting stuck vying for someone else’s.
9 – Focus on Your Strengths
One issue with comparing yourself to others is that you overlook your strengths and good qualities. Take some time to list out your strengths. Writing them down gives you a reference for those times you get stuck in the comparison game.
#James Donaldson notes:
Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.
Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.
Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space. #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticle
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FAST-ACTION STEPS
1 – Choose to practice gratitude daily. Grab a notebook or open a note on your computer and write down three things you are grateful for. The goal is to do this daily and review weekly.
2 – Purge the people and businesses you follow on social media or email lists. Choose those that offer valuable insight that helps you achieve your goals and eliminate the rest.
3 – Take 15 minutes to sit quietly and focus on your strengths. Then write them down and review them regularly to reinforce who you are.
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James Donaldson
Former Owner and Director of The Donaldson Clinic (an outpatient physical therapy clinic)
James completed a 20 year professional basketball career in the spring of 2000. James established The Donaldson Clinic in (January 1990 – 2018) (shortly after a career threatening knee injury) with an idea that he would eventually become a physical therapist. He is a strong advocate for Women & Minority owned businesses and is very involved with various Chambers of Commerce. He understands what it takes to sustain a strong business environment that is conducive to the success of businesses overall.
James is a Washington State University graduate (’79). After an outstanding basketball career with WSU, he went on to play professional basketball in the N.B.A. with the Seattle Supersonics, San Diego/L.A. Clippers, Dallas Mavericks, New York Knicks and Utah Jazz. He also played for several in Spain, Italy and Greece of the European Leagues plus toured with The Harlem Globetrotters to wrap up his career. James was an N.B.A. All-Star in 1988 while playing center for the Dallas Mavericks. In 2006, James was inducted into the Pac – 10 Sports Hall of Fame and also the Washington State University Athletic Hall of Fame.
He now devotes the majority of his time to various community activities, and toward the Gift of Life Foundation, speaking on mental health awareness and suicide prevention. James frequently conducts speaking engagements (motivational, inspirational, educational) for organizations, schools, youth groups and is the author of the published “Standing Above the Crowd” of which you can learn more about at www.standingabovethecrowd.com and is available for sale now.
In 2021, James published Celebrating Your Gift of Life: From the Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy. www.celebratingyourgiftoflife.com
James is a 40+ year resident of Seattle. He believes in being a role model of success and professionalism for the scores of young people that he devotes so much of his time to. He currently serves on several Boards and/or committees and is a member of many organizations. (Please see complete listing on back)
James believes in developing relationships that create a “Win – Win” environment for everyone involved, and being the best he can be!
